KiranLove is a four letter word: T-A-L-K!!
May 3rd 2006 15:25
I was looking at the Google ads on my blog page and realized all were about finding the right guy/soulmate/lover/“dirty little fun haver” {Zooey Deschanel, “Failure to Launch”}. Is that a main priority on everyone’s “things to do before I die/turn 30” list?
People are different in all kinds of ways, and when it comes to relationships there are those who want anywhere from fun and no strings to total monogamous commitment – or anywhere between these two extremes. It can hit a couple hard when you both evolve in a relationship and change your idea of where you want to be in the future. You may have started out with the same wants, needs, desires and aspirations for your partnership, but those things can start to slide out of view and become differentiated from the ideas of your partner.
WARNING!! WARNING!!
If you feel such a separatist vibe in your relationship then address it quickly to avoid unnecessary heartbreak, turmoil, confusion and conflict. Now I’m not saying you won’t feel or experience any of these emotions – some will knock you around and creep into your mind especially when prospects look dull. BUT, it is vital to keep your spirits high, options open and create a close to perfect scenario to get what you want out of any relationship you choose to be a part of.
TALK!!! TALK!!! TALK!!!
It’s clichéd but true – opening up, putting your feelings on the table is the only way to get your exact message across. And I mean REALLY talk – no texting, email, voice messages, or letters. If you talk face-to-face you can get anything and everything you want to across to your partner and give them a chance to respond and open up as well. I’ll be honest and say I am not a fan of talking, I find it makes me anxious and irate and I can lose all composure quite quickly, but if I learn to stay calm (remember your partner is not out to attack you but to come to a resolution with you – ultimately to make you both happy) and listen to what my other half has to say things have always worked out for the better. A little angst, a few tears and frustration are all worth it to get to that point of mutual understanding, gratification, satisfaction and (hopefully) bliss.
So: LET IT OUT!! Cause a ruckus, make noise, shout out your feelings, explode – just make sure your partner knows this is what you both need to make a somewhat seemingly happy relationship work even better. If you express yourself boldly enough you may even provide the force to blow every inkling of doubt, uncertainty and concern out into the open, and then send them far far away to land of resolve.
So get chatting people, despite you relationship status; frivolous and relaxed to devoted and long-term to anywhere and everywhere in-between. Don’t knock it til you try it
People are different in all kinds of ways, and when it comes to relationships there are those who want anywhere from fun and no strings to total monogamous commitment – or anywhere between these two extremes. It can hit a couple hard when you both evolve in a relationship and change your idea of where you want to be in the future. You may have started out with the same wants, needs, desires and aspirations for your partnership, but those things can start to slide out of view and become differentiated from the ideas of your partner.
WARNING!! WARNING!!
If you feel such a separatist vibe in your relationship then address it quickly to avoid unnecessary heartbreak, turmoil, confusion and conflict. Now I’m not saying you won’t feel or experience any of these emotions – some will knock you around and creep into your mind especially when prospects look dull. BUT, it is vital to keep your spirits high, options open and create a close to perfect scenario to get what you want out of any relationship you choose to be a part of.
TALK!!! TALK!!! TALK!!!
It’s clichéd but true – opening up, putting your feelings on the table is the only way to get your exact message across. And I mean REALLY talk – no texting, email, voice messages, or letters. If you talk face-to-face you can get anything and everything you want to across to your partner and give them a chance to respond and open up as well. I’ll be honest and say I am not a fan of talking, I find it makes me anxious and irate and I can lose all composure quite quickly, but if I learn to stay calm (remember your partner is not out to attack you but to come to a resolution with you – ultimately to make you both happy) and listen to what my other half has to say things have always worked out for the better. A little angst, a few tears and frustration are all worth it to get to that point of mutual understanding, gratification, satisfaction and (hopefully) bliss.
So: LET IT OUT!! Cause a ruckus, make noise, shout out your feelings, explode – just make sure your partner knows this is what you both need to make a somewhat seemingly happy relationship work even better. If you express yourself boldly enough you may even provide the force to blow every inkling of doubt, uncertainty and concern out into the open, and then send them far far away to land of resolve.
So get chatting people, despite you relationship status; frivolous and relaxed to devoted and long-term to anywhere and everywhere in-between. Don’t knock it til you try it
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