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Dating Advice - Dating and Relationship Advice


May 2nd 2006 13:07
I was searching relationship blogs on the net after reading a fictitious one that is regularly published
in US Cosmopolitan magazine { by Jessica Hulett Ė have a read, itís gold Ė satire, drama, comedy and a zillion relationship woes sure to ring a bell with every reader.

I came across many that had comments from people asking advice on breakup queries, one in particular - has a writer ask: ďI would like to stay in contact with my ex, but how much is too much?Ē

Breaking up has been a major theme of over the past month, and has also been mentioned on Alannaís blog Ė so itís got to be on many of your minds as well.

Let me know what you think, or share your story, or ask advice. Iím here to listen, to help, to give you a space to vent (god knows I needed that when going through messy break-ups because I certainly type faster than I write, and can let my thoughts and emotions rip!) and to get to know other views on all topics underpinned by DATING and RELATIONSHIP issues and incidents.


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Comment by Scottsman

May 4th 2006 05:30
Hi Kate

My ex-girlfriend and I broke-up over 8 months ago and I still canít let her go. I want to be friends more than anything! I just canít imagine having any sort of life without her. We agreed that it was a mutual break-up but in reality I was forced to agree because she seemed so unhappy being in a relationship with me. In all honesty I guess we grew apart. There were no major dramas or arguments that led to our fall out. It just happened and Iím so lost as to why. She means the world to me and Iím going crazy without her.

I donít want to look possessive or jealous or desperate. All I really want to be is friends, if nothing else is possible. Do you think 8 months is a long enough waiting period?

Any suggestions???


Comment by kate

May 4th 2006 15:25
Hey Scott

What you are experiencing is that niggling feeling I've mentioned that just seems to take forever to get lost! I know it's hard but considering you are both at different stages of dealing with your emotions maybe 8 months hasn't been long enough. It's easier said than done but diverting your attention to other aspects of life will help you resolve some of that hurt and irritabilityyou have in regards to your break-up.

I think talking about your emotions when your girlfriend wanted to separate would have made a difference, but that is in the past and looking forward perhaps approaching her - without being intruisive, say by text or email so it doesn't appear that you are badgering her - would be productive). Arrange to meet or even just talk on the phone about hjow you feel and make it absolutley clear you want to be friends. I don't think broaching the subject of a romantic relationship will prove any good at this early stage. Think of it as starting a totally new friendship, and ease yourself in to getting to know her as a friend rather than a lover.

Anything is worth a try, and I think you two will get there Scott. It's damn hard but whatever happens you always have the memory of her, and although it might take time the hurt will not lasts forever. You seem like a very sincere guy, you have a genuine care for your ex and that is an invaluable quality.

All the best (let me know how things go, if you like, and definitely feel free to ask more questions!)

~ Katie x

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